The C Word

It’s one of those words you never expect to find attached to your life or the life of someone you love.  I’ve always thought that only happens to other people.  But it doesn’t.  It has happened to my family.  
My mom has breast cancer.
That one little sentence reduces me to tears every time.  I found out Saturday and I haven’t been able to focus on anything else since.  One little sentence changes the entire way I see my mom.  Is she going to be alright?  The doctor says it’s curable.  Is he really correct?  How can I not worry that she won’t be alright, that there’s something I could do to help?  I am going to fly home on Sunday for about five days to be there for her surgery.  
Being so far away from  my family at a time like this is harder than I thought it would be.  But when have any of us expected to find ourselves in a position like this?  
I know that now I will need to be tested earlier than the recommended age of 40.  I found (and this likely why you should never do internet research) that my risk is now 1.5 to 3 times greater to get breast cancer because she has it.  According to the Susan G Komen website I now have a ‘moderate increase in risk’.
I don’t like to ask things of people but I would certainly appreciate prayers for my mom as she undergoes surgery and radiation in the next few months.  She’s only just celebrated her 61st birthday while we were all on vacation together less than a week ago.  She never told me there was a chance she was sick, never let on that anything was bothering her.  She hid it from me because I guess she didn’t want to worry me.  I hope I can have her courage and hide my fear when I see her.  But it won’t be easy.

25 thoughts on “The C Word

  1. that is very sad –and I will indeed remember her in my prayers. We always donate to the Susan Koman fund —-I am glad you get to go home and be with her right now. She will love that


  2. woah…I am so sorry Andrea. Breast Cancer ahs reared its ugly head in my family as awee, so I know the frustration, fear and hurt you are feeling firsthand. I will keep you and your family and especially your mom in my prayers.Hugs to you , I so wish I could give you a big hug in person.Janalee


  3. I’m really sorry that the C-bomb has been dropped into your family. I know personally how hard this can be. May I just tell you two things? STOP reading websites about it… that only makes you worry more. And remember that these days medical treatment is so advanced, breast cancer is not a death sentence. Many women go on to live happy, healthy lives.My thoughts and well wishes are with you and your Mom.


  4. I read your comment yesterday, and have been and will continue praying for you to have peace, and for healing for your mom. That is really scary, I do know. My mom does not have cancer, but memory issues, and it is not fun to see your mom sick. I will keep praying until you tell me differently~(((Hugs))) to you today!


  5. I’m so sorry to hear this Andrea. But, as I said when my hubs was diagnosed with cancer this summer…I really feel sorry for CANCER. KICK IT IN THE ASS! I will certainly keep mom in my prayers, as well as the fam. Stay strong. Being far from her will be hard, but doesn’t mean you can’t still be there for her.


  6. My heart is breaking for you and your family, but there is hope and we are praying for your mom & comfort for you as well. My Aunt hid her cancer from me until after she was done with everything; it was shocking to hear, “I had cancer but I'm done now, so I can tell you now.” I can't imagine her going through it on her own; I'm thankful that you are there to support your mom & hold her hand. You will have the courage, she raised an amazing person Andrea. You can do this…I have complete faith in your strength; you've given me much. Many blessing and prayers from our home to yours. And much love, Sara


  7. Andrea – First of all, stay off the internet. Get your info from your mom or her doctor directly. There are so many different factors that you’ll drive yourself mad with all the stories and information.Next, breast cancer research and treatment has improved drastically over the last 10 years. If her dr. says hers is curable, believe him.Third, having dealt with this issue along with my sister’s ovarian cancer and my dad’s colon cancer and my own uterine cancer, if you want to talk, I’m here. (I think we might have been living in a cancer hot spot) We’ve had the entire range of news from the worst to the best. Sometime you just need an ear.Sending your mom white light of health and praying and crossing my fingers and calling upon every god/goddess.


  8. Your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers. I walk in the Susan G. Komen 60 mile walk every year, (in memory of my husband’s mother), and i can tell you that there are hundreds of beautiful, strong survivors of breast cancer whom I am lucky enough to walk alongside. Your mom is in good company.


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