The Beginning of the End? The Naked Truth

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Lately, for the last two months, possibly longer, I’ve had this internal debate. To blog or not blog? Lately I’m leaning towards not blog because it’s become more of a chore than something fun. It used to be enjoyable but I am starting to feel the pressure of not being able to keep up with reading blogs and returning comments.

I also find myself too heavily invested in what other people think. I am starting to see that is not a good thing. If I had not become a blogger however I would not have ‘met’ a lot of great people. That has spurred me to keep going and throwing down post after post when many days there have been times where I didn’t feel like writing but worried about there being nothing for people to read. Then people would stop reading and drop themselves from my blog and while I am loathe to admit it, I like getting comments. I like the fact that people read what I say and think it’s useful or funny or entertaining.

With the recent setback with the bad agent and various other things related to writing I’ve begun to question what I am even doing. What point is there to writing when I (and others) question if I am even good at it? I’m not looking for comments to boost me and say I am a good writer, that’s missing the point of the post. I am just wondering if this struggle is worth it anymore. If maintaining a blog and writing stories is little more than my own distracting version of fantasy land. There are so many other things that languish undone while I pursue this idea I have to be a writer.

I know that my children are not getting the focused attention they deserve and lets not even get close to the fact that I don’t like housework on a good day let alone a distracted one.

It’s Thanksgiving next week which means there are two half days of school and then vacation. My husband is here starting this evening so I won’t have as much time for reading and posting. I have a book to read and a review to write and that will appear here after next week. I’m going to spend the next week {hopefully} figuring out exactly why I should keep writing.

What are you doing? {you know a question to keep it normal}

20 thoughts on “The Beginning of the End? The Naked Truth

  1. I think we all feel that way… I think about the things I SHOULD be doing instead of sitting with my laptop. Take the time off with the hubby & family… I don't think you should stop blogging.. but maybe you could cut it down to once or twice a week? – so you don't feel so torn

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  2. I think you SHOULD write. You should write for yourself, not anyone else. Put it on your blog or not. It doesn't have to be daily. You don't HAVE to comment. You don't HAVE to do anything. It should be about the creative process, not pleasing people. The one thing about blogs is…THEY ARE ALL ABOUT YOU. You do with them what YOU want to do. *off soapbox* My two cents…

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  3. (This is not going to be an ego-stroking, feel good comment. Decide to read or ignore at your own discretion.)Honestly? If you're blogging to become a writer, you probably should stop. The number of bloggers who “make it” as writers is slim; print media still has a bias against online media, that it isn't as “real” or “authentic” as putting ink to paper.Furthermore, if blogging is consuming more of your time than you'd like, maybe you should reconsider how you blog. Returning comments to everyone who comments here is a noble goal, but logistically can become a nightmare. (Seriously… I am honoured that you comment on virtually every post I write, but I do feel badly that I don't reciprocate.) Maybe you need to reduce the expectations you put on yourself. The people who read this blog and comment don't do so with an eye to their own comment counts; they read and comment because they want to. And they will still want to if you post three times a week and comment at their blogs once a week.With that being said, this isn't my decision. I'm just spitballing thoughts out there. Personally, I hope you continue blogging, because I've noticed a change recently in your writing, a more honest and sincere form that I appreciate (and find all too rare in today's blogs).Good luck to you.

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  4. That SciFi dad is a smart man. Write for you. Write because you feel that you have to. Don't forget that just because you have to rewrite…and rewrite…and rewrite…does not mean that being a writer is a fantasy. I have massively curtailed my blogging this year. Partly because I don't have tons to say. And partly because it takes me so much time to say something when it is there.

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  5. I agree with everything said so far. If you want to write, if it's a dream/passion then it's probably your grail. You can't ever ditch your grail and be truly happy. I've gone through all of these same feelings/wonders but it's my grail and I can't give it up. Kat is right, it's about the creative process. That's what keeps us healthy. Do change your blogging habits and only blog/comment when you feel like it. It can consume your life. I had to cut back and now I only visit blogs every so often when I want to. I am so much happier. But it was hard to break away and I worried that I would lose my fans. Those who read me because they want to read me are still around and that's better anyway. No strings attached. Don't give up writing. Just work for a balance. You are a good writer and fantasy only becomes reality when you are persistent. Be patient. Don't let the obstacles discourage you too much. LY

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  6. I think you should write if it makes you happy. If it helps keep you sane, then do it.I find blogging a nice distraction from the mandune details of stay at home mom life.I'm sure there are more practical things I should be doing, but I just really need the outlet.Hope it become fun again.

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  7. Okay fine, I won't comment telling you that you are good writer and I look forward to seeing what your posts will say! ;)I agree with the comments that you should write for you. You don't “owe” anyone anything. I think you should blog when you feel like it. It is hard to strike a balance – family, work, blogging, cleaning, eating cupcakes, etc.I will read whatever you blog however often you blog.

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  8. In spite of everything I've been through with closing and reopening, I still go through what you're going through. Some days it's great, some days I just want to be in the real world and the real world alone. Maybe just try not to worry about putting something up every day. Just blog when you feel it. Jenners did that and she's so much happier now.

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  9. I struggle with my blogging motivation all the time. My interest waxes and wanes, sometimes it's about being spread to thin, others it's feeling like I just have nothing to contribute. I go back to it because I enjoy writing, but I've come to realize that blogging isn't so much about flexing literary muscles as it is about feeling less alone. For me, it's become about occasionally putting myself out there, possibly more than I do in my daily life, and having someone comment and say, hey yeah me too. You should keep writing because you love it. Because it's probably part of who you are. Because you probably can't NOT do it.

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  10. I agree with the above…you gotta do it for you. I've been blogging for two years. And I've been lucky enough to watch my small corner of the internet get slightly ever so bigger when a few more people decided to read. An audience is a powerful drug that makes you constantly want to crave more.But that shouldn't be the reason why you're blogging. I have made peace with the fact that I'm probably never going to be bigger than where I am now. And that's okay. I love writing. Someday, my kids will have a record of their lives because of my blog.Writing is hard and it comes with a lot of rejection, which is also hard. So use this time to take stock of yourself and reset. Would there be an empty hole if you stopped writing? Good luck. I hope you find your answers.

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  11. I HAVE FELT THE EXACTY SAME WAY as you so many times about blogging. I should be reading.should be outside (wait, it's too cold)but I enjoy your blogI guess we can't let anything consume usbut sometimes I feel like blogging becomes a popularity contest———I don't need those Jr. High and High School feelings back again

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  12. i ENJOY your writing. not that it matters… 🙂 i'm with you though, about blogging. i haven't blogged nearly as much lately either. i think the goal should be quality, not quantity. and what is the etiquette for returning comments? its nice but is it mandatory? i hope not!

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  13. Two kinds of bloggers make it for the long haul:1) Those who make big money.2) Those who enjoy doing it.Most of the old timers fall into the second group. Do it because you like it, not because it is an obligation.

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  14. I ask the same question all the time – is blogging worth it? I have to admit, it's made me a better writer. I see how readers (namely, women) react to what I have to say. That right there has made it worth it for me. But beyond that? Despite my ads, I don't make money. And while I used to have tons and tons of commenters, these days many are drifting off to twitter and facebook and online games and other blogs. So, I keep writing to sharpen my writing chops. Working towards a book deal. I came close this past year. I don't give up easily. And so I blog.

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  15. I really can't expound on what's already been said – I agree with all the comments left so far.You have a passion for writing and a gift with words – if you need to, set aside your blogging to focus on your true passion. Only blog when you feel inspired to, and only for you, no one else. 🙂 We'll all be here to read whatever you write! 🙂

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  16. If blogging is something that you don't want to do, I say don't do it. There are so many things in the world that we have to do because we have to do them (as grown-ups) that you don't need another thing.But if it's just that you need a break or a breather, then, I'd say take your time there and come back when you're ready. You have a beautiful voice, and I think that blogging is great exercise.I'm adding you to my reader either way because I am glad to know you and want to read whatever you write.

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  17. I agree with what everyone said. I know exactly where you're coming from. I took a long break from blogging earlier and it realy helped me to think clearer about my intentions. It's become for me, a way to sharpen my writing skills, mainly, and if my posts brighten up someone's day, then all the better. I've come to not expect comments, kudos, or the like. I'm content with the fact that I do it for me, and hope that in that, I'll connect with others. And I don't know that I would worry if you lose followers or whatever. I regularly visit this one particular blog, who rarely posts anything and rarely gets comments but I keep checking because she's such a damn good writer, and when a new post is up, I read enthusiastically! Its the writing/content that gets me in the first place, and keeps me coming back. I'm going to keep blogging but keeping it to 2 posts max. per week. The other bulk of writing time is going to researching writing markets, and submitting my work. Successful blogging's do-able, just needs to find the right balance!Cheers!!

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  18. I'm with you, sistah. I've found blogging to be a chore lately too and I have this Google Reader guilt when I get behind. Then I can't post until I'm caught up with my reader and I never am so I never post anymore. It's a vicious cycle.Seriously, life has been hectic here and I've had to take a step back from blogging to focus on my family. Balance is tough.

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  19. I'm with you, sistah. I've found blogging to be a chore lately too and I have this Google Reader guilt when I get behind. Then I can't post until I'm caught up with my reader and I never am so I never post anymore. It's a vicious cycle.Seriously, life has been hectic here and I've had to take a step back from blogging to focus on my family. Balance is tough.

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  20. I think we all feel that way… I think about the things I SHOULD be doing instead of sitting with my laptop. Take the time off with the hubby & family… I don't think you should stop blogging.. but maybe you could cut it down to once or twice a week? – so you don't feel so torn

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